Recording our memories can help us deepen our connections with family and friends, reflect on our lives and give others a fuller picture of who we are. It can also help future carers understand what matters to us, especially if we become less able to communicate. 

We recently welcomed life story specialist, Rachel Lewis, to an online workshop for the My Future Care community. Hosted by our lead trainer, Nancy Cunningham, the session explored how recording life stories can preserve identity, support wellbeing and contribute to more personalised care. 

Drawing on 15 years’ experience with older people, family carers and people experiencing major life changes, Rachel shared practical advice for recording your own story or helping someone else. 

Sharing memories with family and friends 

Recording a life story can be a way to spend time together, share memories and help family and friends discover things they might never have known about us. Rachel described clients who kept their finished books on the coffee table, ready to show visitors and start a conversation. 

For some, recording a story is a way to pass on experiences, family history and lessons learnt. Rachel recalled working with a woman who created a book for her granddaughter to read on her wedding day, including the advice she would have wanted to offer in person. 

Creating a life story can be something you do together. Looking through photographs or talking about a favourite recipe gives family and friends an opportunity to ask questions, reminisce and enjoy each other’s company. As Nancy put it: “It’s about building stronger relationships and having fun doing it.” 

Seeing the person behind the care needs 

A life story book can help carers understand someone’s interests, relationships and experiences, particularly if that person finds it difficult to communicate. 

Rachel shared an example from research in which a man living in a care setting with dementia repeatedly lay under a table. Once staff learnt that he had worked as a mechanic, they started to understand him better. Inviting him out for a tea break helped them respond in a way that connected with his experience. 

The everyday details matter too. Favourite music, familiar routines and the things someone has always enjoyed can help others offer care that feels more personal.

Rachel suggested compiling a playlist of your favourite music and things you would still like to do. These lists can complement the plans and preferences you record in the My Future Care Handbook or on a Mycarematters Profile. 

Start with something small 

You do not need to write a whole autobiography. A photograph, a favourite recipe or a memory of somewhere important can be enough to begin. 

For those recording their own story, Rachel suggested choosing an approach that feels comfortable. You might work through different stages of your life, or focus on a theme such as work, travel or hobbies. A scrapbook, memory box or voice recording can be just as personal as a printed book. 

“It doesn’t have to be a historical account of dates, times, and places,” Rachel explained. 

If you are supporting someone else, start with curiosity. Ask about a photograph they have chosen to display, or invite them to tell you where they grew up. Give them time to answer and follow what interests them. 

“It should never ever seem like a test or an exam,” Rachel said. 

Keep the story in the person’s own words 

Rachel encouraged participants to preserve the expressions and turns of phrase that make someone’s voice distinctive. Family members can contribute, but the person telling the story should decide what goes into it. 

Minor disagreements, about dates for example, need not interrupt the process. The aim is to capture someone’s experience and what it means to them. 

It is also helpful to ask people why they want to record their story. Some people hope to pass memories on to family or friends. Others want to reflect on their life or help future carers understand them better. 

“People will want to tell their story for their own sake, not just for future generations,” Rachel reminded us. 

Respect what someone chooses to share 

Life story conversations can bring up painful memories, including grief, trauma or difficult relationships. Rachel stressed the importance of building trust, following the person’s pace and allowing them to leave things out. 

“You only put in the book what you’re comfortable with,” she said. 

For community groups and organisations, this means making clear what the project involves and who will see the stories. Rachel also emphasised that life story work is not therapy. People should feel free to pause, change the subject or decide that the activity is not for them. 

Where to go from here 

Whether you are recording your own story or helping someone else, Rachel suggests beginning with one photograph or object and the memories it brings back, then building from there at your own pace.

Thank you to Rachel for sharing her experience and practical advice, and to everyone who contributed to the discussion.
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To find out more about Rachel’s work, visit Presenting Your Past or The Life Story Team. 

If you’d like a template to prompt and guide you, Please Tell Me… a Life Story book and Please Tell Me More… a Life Story book are available on the My Care Matters website. 

We were privileged to host author, council funeral officer and former stand-up comedian, Evie King, at a recent online event for the My Future Care community. 

Evie gave a deeply humane and thought-provoking presentation on the realities of dying without leaving clear information behind, and the lessons this holds for all of us around planning ahead, care and communication.  

Drawing on her experience of arranging funerals for people without family support or financial means, Evie offered a rare insight into the practical and emotional chaos that can follow when someone dies without their wishes, paperwork or personal details properly documented.

Her talk was moving at times, while also using her wit and sharp eye for the absurdities of real-life situations to make conversations about death feel approachable and relatable. Her underlying messages were ultimately about life, relationships and care for the people left behind.

“Death is 90% Admin” 

Evie described death as “90% admin”, reflecting on the hours she has spent tracing next of kin, searching homes for paperwork, identifying accounts, finding wills and trying to piece together the basic facts of someone’s life. In many cases, she explained, she is left trying to reconstruct a person’s identity from scattered possessions, unopened letters or fragments of information gathered from neighbours and care staff. 

She emphasised that the people who end up needing council funerals are not unusual or irresponsible. Often, they are simply ordinary people whose lives became more complicated through illness, bereavement, estrangement, dementia or financial hardship. 

“They’re not tragic outliers,” she explained. “They’ve mostly just had something go wrong that could go wrong to all of us.” 

This perspective shaped much of the talk. Rather than presenting death planning as something only relevant to older people or those with large estates, Evie framed it as an ordinary and necessary part of life.

“Our Wishes Have to Survive Us” 

A key message was that conversations alone are not enough. Wishes need to be written down. 

Throughout her work, Evie repeatedly encounters situations where funeral preferences, care wishes or personal information have been verbally shared but never formally recorded. Once someone becomes seriously ill, develops dementia or loses the ability to communicate, those wishes can easily disappear. 

“Wishes have to survive us,” she said. 

She described cases where body donation plans had been lost during care transitions, where families disagreed about funeral arrangements because nothing had been documented, and where people entered care homes with almost no personal information attached to them at all.

Identity, Dignity and the “Small Things” 

One particularly moving part of the talk focused on identity and dignity in later life and care settings. Evie reflected on how small details, the things that make someone themselves, are often lost when planning has not happened. 

“The small things are so important,” she explained, describing how something as simple as recording how someone likes their tea, what television programmes they enjoy, or the music they love can help preserve personhood when someone becomes non-verbal or seriously ill. 

To help address this, Evie strongly encouraged people to create a centralised “if I die” information pack containing key contacts, wills, funeral wishes, account details, care documents and practical information, all stored in one place. Even incomplete notes, she argued, can make an enormous difference. 

“As long as you’ve written something,” she said, “is a start.”

Why Wills Matter 

The talk also explored the emotional and legal importance of Wills. Evie stressed that Wills are not simply about inheritance, but about who gets to make decisions after death. 

She described difficult real-life cases involving estranged relatives, former partners and blended families, where legal next-of-kin rules placed decision-making power in the hands of people the deceased may not have chosen themselves. For unmarried couples, LGBTQ+ people and people with complicated family dynamics, she stressed the importance of legally naming trusted individuals to avoid conflict and exclusion. 

“Families can actually fall apart during this period if you haven’t put something in place,” she warned.

Talking About Death More Openly 

Alongside these serious themes, the talk also contained warmth, humour and a refreshing openness about death. Evie encouraged people to think more creatively and personally about funerals, challenging the idea that funerals must follow a rigid template. From unconventional music choices to environmentally friendly funeral methods and deeply personal rituals, she argued that funerals should reflect the individuality of the person being remembered. 

Importantly, she also challenged the wider culture of avoidance around death. Rather than seeing death conversations as depressing, she suggested they can actually help people live more intentionally and appreciate life more fully. 

“There’s a lot of life in death,” she reflected, “and affirming stuff in the process of thinking about it.” 

Throughout the webinar, Evie balanced practical advice with compassion and honesty. Her message was clear. Planning ahead is not about being morbid. It is about reducing confusion, protecting dignity, supporting loved ones and making sure that, even at the end of life, people are still recognised as themselves.

We are hugely grateful to Evie King for sharing her time and experience with the My Future Care community. Her talk powerfully reinforced the importance of the work being done by the organisations, staff and volunteers partnering with us to support people in their communities to plan ahead with greater confidence, clarity and dignity. Across care, community and voluntary organisations, these conversations can make a profound difference to how people experience later life, serious illness and bereavement.

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Evie King’s first book, Ashes to Admin, is about her job arranging council funerals. Her second, Get Ahead of Being Dead: Your Handy Planner for the End of Life is coming out in June 2026. She is an ambassador for the missing persons and cold case charity, Locate International, and heads up the UK training programme for council funeral workers. 

Take advantage of our free training and ongoing support programme. Our online training will equip your team to help the people you work with make an action plan and see it through, using the My Future Care Handbook as a source of information and structure for the conversation. Handbooks are available free in certain areas (thanks to area-specific funding), otherwise bulk prices are available.

Request further information.

What kind of support do you provide, and who do you provide it to?

We provide a pre-care ‘home help’ service, usually for older people, but also for some younger people who are living with additional challenges. This can include people with visual impairments, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome or ME, as well as those with mobility issues or other physical needs.

Our support is designed to be flexible and responsive, depending on what each person needs. That might include light cleaning, cooking, dog walking, running errands, accompanying people on trips out, helping with technology, or supporting with day-to-day admin.

At its heart, the service is about making everyday life that bit easier, while helping people maintain their independence and continue living in a way that feels comfortable and familiar to them.

What kind of challenges do the people you work with face when it comes to making plans for later life and beyond?

For many people, one of the biggest challenges is simply not having the time or space to think these things through. Family members may live far away or have busy lives of their own, making it harder to have open conversations about the future.

Some people also experience social isolation, which can mean they don’t have anyone to talk things through with on a regular basis. This can make planning feel more daunting or something to put off.

In this context, having someone who can act as a sounding board, someone who will listen with empathy and without judgment, can make a real difference. Even informal conversations can help people begin to reflect on what matters to them and what they might want for the future.

How do you hope the My Future Care Handbooks and support will help you meet people’s needs better?

My experience of using the Handbook has been mainly positive. It’s a helpful resource, and I can see how it supports people to think through important aspects of later life planning in a structured and accessible way.

Most customers like to go through the Handbook in their own time, at their own pace. That independence is important, and it reflects how personal these decisions are.

The Handbook gives people a clear starting point and helps them organise their thoughts, which can then open up conversations when they feel ready. It also means that, when support is needed, those conversations can be more focused and meaningful.

Thank you to Gillian for sharing how you’re using the Handbook to support person-centred, proactive planning.

Feeling motivated by Gillian’s insights? Could you incorporate future care planning support into your group or service?

Take advantage of our free training and ongoing support programme. Our online training will equip your team to help the people you work with make an action plan and see it through, using the My Future Care Handbook as a source of information and structure for the conversation. Handbooks are available free in certain areas (thanks to area-specific funding), otherwise bulk prices are available.

Request further information.

We’re delighted to welcome Community People to the My Future Care community.

Based in Burgess Hill, the team have been sharing the My Future Care Handbook through their community activities. Following a local letter drop and door-knocking campaign reaching 350 households, visitors to their centre were encouraged to pick up a Handbook. They have also shared the Handbook with lunch club members, outreach workers supporting people in their homes, and participants in their Older Persons Forum.

It’s a great example of how the Handbook can be woven into existing community touchpoints to spark conversations about planning ahead and what matters most in later life.

We spoke to Dawn Langston, Centre Manager at Community People, to find out more.

What kind of support does Community People provide, and who do you provide it to?

We’re delighted to welcome Adam Reith as our Local Ambassador for Norfolk!

Adam brings rich experience from his time co-owning and managing a home care company in Norfolk. That work gave him a deep understanding of the challenges families face when navigating later life and care – and how important it is to make the process clear, supportive, and personal.

Adam says: “I’ve seen just how complex and emotional the care journey can be. My goal is always to make it easier to understand, less overwhelming, and more empowering for the people going through it.”

Adam will play an important role in building new partnerships with local organisations. He is already working alongside many excellent teams using the My Future Care Handbook – including the Palliative Care Team at Norfolk and Norwich University Hospital, The Norfolk Hospice, and the Healing Harbour charity – and is keen to support more organisations to embed future care planning in their work.

A big part of Adam’s role is helping organisations improve the support they provide to their communities. By sharing tools like the Handbook and training, he aims to make it easier for frontline teams to open up important conversations, help people take control of their later life plans and support the wellbeing of individuals and their families.

To get to know Adam better, we asked him a few quick questions!

Q: What opportunities do you see for forging new partnerships in Norfolk around future care planning?

A: Lots! I see real opportunity in bringing together local organisations, such as GP surgeries, libraries, and small community groups, to make future care planning more visible and accessible. I’d like to build bridges between health, social care, and voluntary groups so that planning for the future becomes part of everyday conversation rather than something people only face in a crisis.

Q: How can the My Future Care Handbook help organisations improve the way they support their communities?

A: The Handbook makes those tough conversations around future care much easier by providing a structure that organisations can lean on for stability. What’s also great is the free training that comes with it. Organisations will find this very useful in supporting their community.

Q: What excites you most about building these connections as part of your Ambassador role?

What excites me most is the chance to connect with people. I’m very much a people person, and I enjoy meeting new groups and seeing the ways they care for others in their community. The Handbook is such a powerful tool to start open and honest conversations about future planning, and I’m genuinely excited to see the positive impact it will have across Norfolk.

If you’re in Norfolk and would like to explore how My Future Care can support your organisation, send Adam a message now.

If you’ve joined one of our My Future Care training sessions, then you’ve already met our fantastic lead trainer, Nancy Cunningham.

Originally from Canada and now living in South London, Nancy brings a wealth of experience to her role – from teaching and creative facilitation to supporting people with disabilities and leading culture change projects in care homes. A passionate advocate for people living with dementia and a firm believer in the power of open conversations, Nancy’s personal and professional experiences shape her warm, compassionate approach to future care planning.

As our lead trainer, Nancy delivers free online training to help groups, community organisations, and health and care providers support people to use the My Future Care Handbook as a guide to plan for the future. The training is practical, person-centred, and suitable for everyone – from experienced palliative care professionals to new volunteers who simply want to help others feel more prepared and confident.

The feedback on Nancy’s training speaks for itself:

“The training provided a useful understanding and introduction to the Handbook and enabled us to develop a framework for our workshops.” – Sage House, Tangmere

“The My Future Care Buddy training has been fundamental – it provided a catalyst for individuals to explore in a safe environment their own understanding of what Advance Care Planning is.” – Healing Harbour Charity

We caught up with Nancy to ask about her experience working with the My Future Care Handbook, and to gather some of her top tips for those supporting future care planning in their communities.

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What are the most common barriers to sorting out our future care plans – and what practical tips help overcome them?

Nancy: Many people say, “It’s all a bit overwhelming – I don’t know where to start.” That’s completely normal. The key is to break things down into smaller, manageable parts. That’s exactly what the My Future Care Handbook is designed to help with – supporting people to navigate their priorities at their own pace.

Another common one is, “My family knows what I want.” But we often find that different family members have different views, which can lead to confusion or conflict. If it’s not documented, health professionals may end up making key decisions instead.

Some people say, “I’ll do it when I’m older,” or “I just don’t have time.” The truth is, we never know what tomorrow will bring. And while we all live busy lives, it’s about choosing to prioritise this – even in small steps.

And finally, there are those who say, “I don’t want to think about it.” This often stems from understandable fear or discomfort. But once the conversation begins, people usually feel a real sense of relief and reassurance.

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Can you share a moment when using the My Future Care Handbook made a real difference to someone?

Nancy: I supported a woman I’ll call Maxine, whose sister had recently died in a car accident. She had done no future care planning, and it left her family with so much uncertainty. Maxine realised how important it was to get her own plans in place, but she didn’t know where to begin.

We worked through the Handbook together, talked about her priorities, and created an Action Plan. I supported her over a few Zoom sessions – just being there as a ‘friendly nag’, giving her the space and encouragement she needed.

Six months later, Maxine emailed me to say she’d been diagnosed with terminal cancer. She thanked me and the Handbook for helping her prepare and make her wishes known. “Life is funny that way,” she wrote. “Everything happens for a reason.” That message has always stayed with me.

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For those new to future care planning, what are your top tips for starting conversations with confidence and compassion?

Nancy: First, take time to build a connection. Ask about someone’s life – their family, work, or what’s brought them to this point. Trust is key.

If they have the Handbook, a great place to start is page 12, which outlines different planning topics. That helps you get a feel for what matters most to them.

And finally, active listening is vital. Ask open questions, give people space to speak, and really hear what they’re saying. Reflecting back helps build understanding and shows that you’re walking alongside them, not leading the way.

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Want to learn more?

Whether you’re a local charity, a social prescriber, a care provider, or anyone with a community support role, our training can help your team enable people to plan ahead with confidence. Thanks to our funding partners, this training is completely free to attend.

👉 View current training dates and learn more about the My Future Care Service

Or get in touch at info@mycarematters.org to discuss how we can support your organisation.

We believe that when we plan for tomorrow, we can start living better today. Planning for our future isn’t just about end of life – it’s about supporting our physical and mental wellbeing throughout the rest of our lives.

That includes tuning into the everyday things that support our wellbeing, like what we eat, how we move and even our sensory needs.

In this thoughtful guest article, Wellbeing Practitioner Mel Charters explores how simple sensory experiences – especially through aromatherapy – can make a meaningful difference to our quality of life, including if and when we need care and support from others.

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A Sensory Journey

Exploring and acknowledging the importance of our sensory world plays a vital part
in helping us to manage our everyday lives and support others with theirs.

It also enables us to support a person-centred approach to later life planning, of
benefit to both the individual and their carers at all stages, and can complement any
existing care planning.

The scope of this subject is vast, as is the evidence base!

But today, if we look at sensory awareness and wellbeing in everyday life, we can
see how powerful small changes and explorations can be in supporting people’s
wellbeing.

Let us take a look at Aromatherapy.

The term essentially means bringing about a positive physiological therapeutic effect
by means of a fragrance origin, natural or synthetic or a combination.
As an Aromatherapist, I work primarily with essential oils which are the very
concentrated oils derived from plants and resins.

The medium by which these oils can be utilised could be via massage, bathing or
inhalation, with due regard to safe use and appropriate dilution.

Our sense of smell is very powerful and evocative!

A favourite fragrance may invoke a feeling of calm and familiarity, of comfort and
relaxation.

Combined with safe touch, for example gentle hand massage, it can elicit a profound
sense of wellbeing and play a part in helping to address anxiety and support pain
management.

Aromatherapy and massage have long been established in hospices, oncology units
and as part of a tool kit within other multi-disciplinary settings.

Workshops and Taster sessions are fabulous ways of exploring aromatherapy,
eliciting memories, associations, referencing our diverse cultures and traditions;
exploring social history and providing opportunities for connection and sharing.
A person’s profile and personalised care and support planning can incorporate
aspects of aromatherapy and wellbeing which can help a person transitioning to care
facility or adapt to life change.

Some examples.

Pam and Harj

Pam had a fall in her garden.

The resulting hospital admission and stay were very stressful for her as she is fiercely
independent and tends to her garden regularly, getting great joy from it, particularly
her cultivation of rosemary, lavender and other culinary herbs.

Whilst in the hospital, having checked with the care team, Pam’s daughter Harj gave
her mum a gentle hand massage with a lavender oil blend during visits.

She showed Pam a video on her phone of her grandchildren tending to her plants
and having fun with the water hose!

Her daughter packed a dried lavender bag in Pam’s fresh laundry so that the
fragrance would permeate.

David and John

John and his dad David, attend a group for people with moderate dementia and their
carers.

They attend a workshop on Aromatherapy, where David enjoys smelling and
identifying different fragrances and reminiscing about some of the fragrances of his
youth such as Sunlight laundry soap, camphor blocks around his neck for colds and
the smell of hops from the local brewery!

John’s feedback to the staff was that he was surprised and delighted, as he felt that
his dad had been more animated and engaged than he had been for a long time, and
it has given John an insight into conversations and approaches he could adopt at
home with his dad, particularly as a distraction during difficult times and helping to lift
his dad’s mood at other times.

The group also went on a trip to a local museum, which again ignited David’s
memories, and he was an active participant in the reminiscence sessions.

OK, a little thought to finish.

We all benefit from principles of aromatherapy even if we don’t recognise it as
such. Olbas oil, Vicks, perfume, cologne, … And what lures us to the baked goods in supermarkets and coffee shops?!!

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By Mel Charters 2025©

Mel is a Wellbeing Practitioner based in the West Midlands. She offers Bespoke Workshops within the Community, including Staff sessions, consultancy and personalised Wellbeing options.

Contact Mel for further details of how she may support your Project or Service: melcharters@msn.com

 

What kind of support do you provide, and who do you provide it to?
Our Live Well Service supports clients aged 17 and over who are registered with a Dorking GP practice. As Social Prescribers, we take a fresh, holistic approach to empower people to take charge of their health and wellbeing in positive and meaningful ways. This can include connecting them with community groups, exercise classes, financial advice services, volunteer hubs – and much more.

What kind of challenges do the people you work with face when it comes to making plans for later life and beyond?
Knowing where to start can be a huge challenge. It often feels overwhelming, and people may not know what to focus on first. There’s also a common perception that planning for later life is daunting or bleak, which can be off-putting and make it harder to engage with the conversation.

How do you hope the My Future Care Handbooks and support will help you meet people’s needs better?
We hope the Handbook will help us to positively reframe perceptions around later life planning and encourage more people to take part in it. Ultimately, we want people to feel empowered and in control of their lives, and we see the Handbook as a valuable tool to support those conversations.

Thank you to Lucy and the DHC team for sharing how you’re using the Handbook to support person-centred, proactive planning.

Feeling motivated by Lucy’s insights? Could you incorporate future care planning support into your group or service?

Take advantage of our free training and ongoing support programme. Our online training will equip your team to help the people you work with make an action plan and see it through, using the My Future Care Handbook as a source of information and structure for the conversation. Handbooks are available free in certain areas (thanks to area-specific funding), otherwise bulk prices are available.

Request further information.

A guest blog by Rachel Lewis, founder of Presenting Your Past and The Life Story Team, on how Life Story Books can enrich future care planning, with practical tips for families and professionals supporting people in later life to bring connection and meaning to the process.

At the heart of future care planning is a simple but vital question: Who is this person, really? Not just their medical needs or legal arrangements, but their values, memories, hopes, and identity. That’s where Life Story Books come in. They bridge the gap between the practical and the personal, helping people feel seen, understood, and valued within the systems that support them.

I’ll never forget one of my early clients – Peter. He was preparing to move into a care home after receiving a terminal cancer diagnosis. Peter asked me to help him create a Life Story Book because, in his words, “I want them to see that I’m not some clueless old duffer!”

Peter had been a doctor in the Royal Navy, then spent over 30 years as a GP. He was familiar with care planning and was meticulous in organising his own. He even ordered 12 copies of his book – some for the care staff, the rest for his funeral and wake. It was a privilege to support him, providing a sense of dignity, respect, and connection as he prepared for his final stage of life.

Peter was probably a one-off in the direct and pragmatic way he approached his care. Most of my clients create Life Story Books to mark a milestone – perhaps a significant birthday or to preserve family history. But regardless of the motivation, the benefits are the same. Research shows that life story work boosts confidence, connection, and self-worth. And when care staff can read or contribute to a book, the quality of person-centred care improves too.

In the context of future planning, Life Story Books can also help people clarify what matters most, supporting decisions about future care. They spark joy and self-reflection, especially in group settings. In our group Memories and Milestones project, the final session is devoted to “Words of Wisdom, Reflections and Bucket Lists.” Looking back helps people look forward and take ownership of their own narratives.

One participant told us, “I’d forgotten how much I’ve done in my life. It felt good to see it all in one place. I’ve also particularly enjoyed having the opportunity to reflect on my life and think about what’s most important to me. It’s made me realise how much I’ve done in my life, and how much I still hope to do.”

That simple recognition can be powerfully affirming. It also helped her reconnect with past achievements and pleasures as she considered what she wanted for the future.

Tips for Introducing Life Story Work

As with all future planning, it’s important to raise the topic gently. Here are a few accessible ways in:

1. Start with a story—it’s not a form-filling exercise
Invite someone to tell you about a favourite food, a childhood memory, or a time they felt proud. These gentle prompts are far less daunting than asking someone to “write their life story.”

2. Use everyday milestones
We use themes like Childhood, School Days, People in My Life, Holidays, and Hobbies as anchors. Even someone who thinks they’ve “nothing to say” often lights up when asked, “Who was your favourite teacher?”

3. Frame it as a gift
Life Story Books can serve as a lasting legacy for children or grandchildren, or as a means for care workers to gain insight into someone’s background. This framing helps people see the value.

4. Make it social
Tea, coffee, and lots of biscuits fuel our group sessions! Group storytelling isn’t just fun; it jogs memories, encourages shared reminiscence, and fosters connection.

Overcoming Common Hurdles

“I don’t have a story.”
Everyone does. Use photos, music, or food to jog memories and start conversations.

Time and capacity
Even short, informal chats can yield rich material. Voice notes can be transcribed later.

Difficult memories
People are in control of what they share. Life Story Books only need to include what they want to preserve.

Formats and Flexibility

Life Story work comes in many shapes and sizes. There are apps, iPad-based multimedia projects, and professional biography services that can cost thousands.

Personally, I favour the old-fashioned book. It needs no power source, it’s easy to share, and you can re-order copies at any time. I use an online British printer, Bob Books, which offers free design software, excellent print quality, and a brilliant customer service team.

How you create the book is also key – an AI-based app or ghostwriting service may result in a glossy finished product, but to me, it takes the joy out of the process.

As one of my group clients said,
“I feel that my relationships with other people have been deepened through empathy. I have felt more confident in opening up to others as the weeks went on and have felt a sense of pride in having (with help!) made this book.”

For me, the heart of Life Story work is listening with curiosity and care. You don’t need fancy equipment or specialist training to get started – just compassion and the willingness to listen.

Final Thought: Identity Is Care

When we plan for the future, drawing on the past can give those plans genuine meaning. Life Story Books remind us that people are more than patients or service users – they’re individuals with rich, unique histories.

As one participant put it,
“If life is a book, we want to be recognised as more than just the last chapter.”

That recognition can be the difference between care that is merely adequate and care that is truly person-centred.
If you’d like resources, ideas, or a friendly chat about how to get started, please feel free to get in touch. Together, we can ensure that future care planning is guided not just by needs, but by memories, milestones, and meaning.

About the Author

Rachel Lewis is the founder of Presenting Your Past and The Life Story Team. For over 12 years, she’s helped people celebrate and connect with their stories through DIY guides, facilitator training, bespoke services, and community projects across Surrey, Hampshire, and West Sussex.